Conflict in marriage is inevitable. Every couple goes through it at some point. But not everyone knows how to handle it correctly, biblically. We would be wise to remember that whatever we are fighting over is not more important than our relationship. Since we know that conflicts will occur, we need to set up rules and boundaries before we are in the middle of a situation where tempers are flaring and words are being used recklessly. Determine ahead of time with your spouse to follow a few guidelines to fighting fairly and hold each other accountable to them. Then when the next disagreement occurs, love can take over and eliminate a messy outcome.
Proverbs 16:24 “Kind words are like honey; they are easy to accept and good for your health.”
Proverbs 12:18 “Speak without thinking, and your words can cut like a knife. Be wise, and your words can heal.”
Proverbs 14:3 “Foolish words cause you trouble; wise words protect you.”
James 4:1 “Do you know where your fights and arguments come from? They come from the selfish desires that make war inside you.”
CHALLENGE: Discuss healthy rules and boundaries for disagreements. Choose to follow these closely when the next argument occurs.