The Bible clearly defines God’s original design for marriage in the verse found in Genesis 2:24, “A man shall leave his father and mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall be one flesh”. This “leaving” isn’t only a physical representation of what God had in mind. It is a separation of being dependent on one’s parents for meeting their needs, both financially and emotionally. A husband and wife are now each other’s support system. They are a team, united as one. This does not mean our parents are totally out of the picture, to be cut off completely, but a new relationship must be formed. The purpose of leaving is not to abandon all contact with the past, but to establish a new oneness in marriage. The husband takes on the role as spiritual leader and the wife falls into her position of submitting to his direction. This is important so that roots of bitterness and division do not develop as a result of parental interference. Again, we must respectfully acknowledge our parents’ well-meaning advice and offers of assistance. But the marriage partners are working together as a team to make decisions that will benefit their family.
Ephesians 5:31, 33 ” ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
CHALLENGE: Commit to your spouse and to God to make your marriage a top priority over every other human relationship.